Man not prepared for “explosive incident” at engagement party

A groom-to-be has been staunchly defended online for not wanting his father’s ongoing relationship “drama” ruining his upcoming wedding—and directly telling him as much.

The 27-year-old man and original poster (OP), Reddit user Ambitious_West_1255, shared earlier this month that his dad started dating his new girlfriend a few months ago, and he was happy for him at first. Then, however, the OP learned a crucial detail.

According to the OP’s post, his dad’s significant other is married, which he evidently knew.

Repeat Performance?

Apparently, their affair led to an “explosive incident” with the woman’s cheated-on husband at the OP’s engagement party—leaving this user furious with his father not only for bringing that drama to the celebration, but for doing, “Something like that to begin with.”

The OP has since taken steps to ensure that a repeat dramatic episode doesn’t take place on his wedding day.

The OP added in his post on Jan. 15 that the husband has remained a “big problem” for his father and girlfriend and that the police have been called “multiple” times.

“”I took some space from dad,” the OP told Redditors.

“He continued calling and texting, but I didn’t answer. He wanted us to discuss the wedding and what his [girlfriend’s] role will be.

“I told him she’s not invited and he’s probably not going to be either. I told him I don’t want his dating a married woman drama ruining my wedding. I told him we (fiancée and me) didn’t deserve that. He told me he raised me solo, we were always close, I have to invite him.

“I asked if he’d really be OK with leaving his girlfriend at home and he said no. I told him I don’t want her drama at my wedding. He tried to make promises. But I know he can’t keep them.”

‘Taunting’ on social media

The OP, he explained, knows his dad can’t stop his girlfriend from “taunting” her husband about her new fling on social media, which is how he knew they were at the engagement party, this user clarified—or the husband from showing up and, “Being the reason the police are called.”

Safe to say, Redditors didn’t blame the OP for not wanting to worry about all this on his big day.

After the OP asked if he was in the wrong for putting his foot down—in a post that’s since racked up more than 900 upvotes and 200 responses—he was met with overwhelming support in the Reddit thread for doing so.

One user, for instance, reassuringly replied: “He should not even question who you want at your wedding. She should not be there and your dad should not be if he just can’t leave her at home. He should be ashamed.”

‘Hire security’

A second user who backed the OP reassured: “It’s your wedding. You don’t need that drama. As a precaution, I’d hire some extra security just in case they try to crash your wedding.”

A third wrote: “It’s your wedding and you have good reason for not inviting her. This is a tough situation. I hope you can convince your dad to show up solo, but I’m not holding out hope.”

“Same,” the OP wrote back to that particular user, adding, “I’d like to think he loves me enough to do it, but he’s making so many questionable decisions that I just don’t know anymore.”

For some brides or grooms, the, “Best day of their life might also be one of their most feared,” as Wedding Spot acknowledged, because of potential family drama that could pop up.

Conflict Prevention

One way to prevent potential wedding day conflicts, per Wedding Spot, is a strategy the OP seems to have used in his case: “Don’t invite people who will present unpleasant distractions.”

In another case of wedding drama to hit the internet, Newsweek just covered a bride-to-be who was backed by readers for rejecting her stepfather’s plans to be part of her ceremony.

Newsweek contacted Ambitious_West_1255 for comment via Reddit.

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